Dr. Heather Macdonald joins our clinical staff this spring, bringing with her a wealth of experience and depth of training. We are particularly excited to welcome her to our psychological testing and assessment program. Heather’s professional background includes working with young children, adolescents and adults in a variety of settings with a wide range of identified concerns. A licensed clinical psychologist since 2010, she has experience working with neurodevelopmental challenges, specific learning differences, complex developmental trauma, ADHD (in adults and children), and mood issues.

Working with Clergy. Heather also has a great deal of experience working with clergy around issues of leadership, mid-career questions, as well as pre-ordination evaluations. In her work with clergy she is careful to include perspectives on adult development and how this can impact behavior and functioning. In such work with spiritual leaders, she uses standardized and objective test batteries but focuses largely on the complicated intersections of personality structure, leadership style, spiritual calling, and social and psychological functioning.

Passionate about Assessment. Heather is committed to making the process of psychological evaluation deeply collaborative and therapeutic so that a person’s lived experience resonates with the results written in the final report. When viewed as a therapeutic intervention, assessment yields much more insightful results. The collaborative space of the assessment process necessarily includes multi-dimensional perspectives on identity and intersectionality.

She often asks, “Can psychological testing be a site of invitation, provocation, revelation, or promise? Can it be a space of apology, mourning, and forgiveness since the true suffering of the Other refuses to be put into language to begin with?”

Trained on Both Coasts. Prior to working at the Samaritan Center, Heather worked at the Danielsen Institute at Boston University and taught psychology at Lesley University in Cambridge, MA. She completed her MA degree in psychology at Seattle University and her doctorate at Pacific University in Forest Grove, Oregon. She sees clients at the Bellevue office and at the Samaritan main office in Seattle.

What would it be like for you to go 72 hours without alcohol? As part of Alcohol Awareness Month, the National Council on Addiction and Drug Dependence (NCADD) has invited all Americans to abstain from alcohol the first weekend in April (5^th-7^th). Taking a break from alcohol can be a great way to explore what role it plays in your life, even if you would not identify as someone who struggles with alcohol use.

As you probably know, drinking too much can harm your health. According to the World Health Organization, the harmful use of alcohol contributes to more than 200 diseases and injury conditions, most notably alcohol use disorders, liver cirrhosis, and cancers.¹ An estimated 88,000 people (62,000 men and 26,000 women) die from alcohol-related causes annually, making alcohol the 3rd leading cause of preventable death in the United States.²

So what does responsible alcohol use look like? It may surprise you. Both the USDA and National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) have developed recommendations to limit the risk of alcohol-related harm, suggesting that women should consume no more than 7 standard drinks per week and men should have no more than 14.^{3, 4}

It is important to note that these recommendations define a standard drink as: 1.5 oz of hard liquor (40% alcohol), a 5 oz. glass of wine (12% alcohol), or a 12 oz. beer (5% alcohol).⁵ Step foot into one of the many breweries located in Seattle, and you will notice that it is difficult to find a beer whose alcohol content is 5% or less; similarly, most cocktails contain multiple shots of hard alcohol and the alcohol content of wine can vary drastically.  All of this to say, you may be having more than “one standard drink” with every drink you consume.

In addition to the weekly guidelines highlighted above, the NIAAA recommends that daily consumption of alcohol is limited, no more than 3 drinks for women and no more than 4 for men, in order to reduce the risk of developing an alcohol use disorder.

What exactly is an alcohol use disorder? It is a clinical term describing a collection of symptoms related to alcohol use that cause significant distress and or impairment during the same 12-month period; these symptoms fall into four major categories including impaired control, social impairment, hazardous use, and pharmacological criteria (i.e. tolerance and withdrawal).  An estimated 16 million people in the United States have been diagnosed with an alcohol use disorder.⁶

The good news is that there is hope for recovery from an alcohol use disorder. In fact, it is estimated that between 42%-66% of people with substance use disorders achieve full remission^7,8  and as many as 20 million individuals and family members are living lives in recovery from alcohol.⁹ Recovery is not a one-size fits all concept and it may include the use of self-help groups (i.e. AA, SMART Recovery, LifeRing, etc.) and/or formal treatment (i.e. medications, therapy); no single option is right for everyone, and treatment should reflect an individual’s unique history and hopes for their recovery.

Are you wondering if your relationship with alcohol may be problematic? Next steps might include speaking with your family, friends, or pastor; attending a self-help group; or speaking with a treatment professional in your area.

• https://www.who.int/substance_abuse/facts/alcohol/en/)
• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Alcohol and Public Health: Alcohol-Related Disease Impact (ARDI). Average for United States 2006–2010 Alcohol-Attributable Deaths Due to Excessive Alcohol Use. Available at: https://nccd.cdc.gov/DPH_ARDI/Default/Report.aspx?T=AAM&P=f6d7eda7-036e-4553-9968-9b17ffad620e&R=d7a9b303-48e9-4440-bf47-070a4827e1fd&M=8E1C5233-5640-4EE8-9247-1ECA7DA325B9&F=&D=. Accessed 1/18/17.
• S. Department of Health and Human Services and U.S. Department of Agriculture. 2015 – 2020 Dietary Guidelines for Americans.External8th Edition, Washington, DC; 2015.
• https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/moderate-binge-drinking
• https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/what-standard-drink
• https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/alcohol-use-disorders
• (2018, July 2). Media Guide. Retrieved from https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/media-guide on 2019, March 4.
• https://www.recoveryanswers.org/recovery-101/fast-facts/
• https://www.facingaddiction.org/resources/alcohol-awareness-month

Raising questions about the value of self-esteem can seem like modern blasphemy. So let me say up front that I am for it: Self-esteem is a positive attribute! Who has not witnessed the pain of shattered self-esteem in a friend who has lost love or a co-worker whose career has been derailed?

But the pursuit of high flying and unassailable self-esteem isn’t necessarily the golden road to mental health and happiness. Once proclaimed with certainty in schools and self-help seminars, the merits of self-esteem have been overstated. Especially when you consider the routes we take to keep a shiny and soaring self-esteem aloft: constant focus on competition, perfectionism, and narcissistic preoccupation.

There is a better way. A better model of healthy and sustainable self-regard. It is supported by research, and it is grounded in the wisdom of our faith traditions. It amounts to a practice of self-compassion as the principle for understanding and sustaining one’s worth. Failure and loss are the inevitable consequences of being human. One shares that condition with everyone else, no more and no less. And one offers oneself compassion in the unblinking awareness of that common experience of imperfection, just as one would offer compassion rather than condemnation to a friend.

A current researcher who has substantiated the claims for self-compassion is University of Texas-based psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff. Her experiments have substantiated the effectiveness of self-compassion, and she has gone further to refine tools for assessing one’s inclination to respond to one’s shortcomings with compassion rather than condemnation. Still further, she has developed a variety of ways to practice self-compassion as a route to health and healing. To get a brief intro to her work, check out her TED talk on youtube.com, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4

As I have come to advocate for the value of self-compassion—in contrast to a primary focus on self-esteem—I become aware that its roots extend into the depth of my faith. I understand that we, you and I, share a common humanity and a common dignity as God’s creatures. That dignity lies not in some perfection that we have realized but in the path that we ascend together, accepting ourselves and one another with compassion.

The acceptance with which we embrace ourselves, our wonderful and flawed selves, is neither resignation nor complacency. This is crucially important: self-acceptance is realistic and hopeful, positive and not cynical. We regard ourselves with love, even as we commit ourselves to continue striving to be our best. Central to Christian faith is the exhortation to love your neighbor as yourself, and insofar as we strive to show compassion to our neighbor, we do likewise for ourselves. Success in one is inseparable from pursuit of the other.

The apostle Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians that he discovered his strength in his own weakness, his wisdom in his foolishness. This is not doormat Christianity: Paul was not strong because he was weak; he was strong because he could acknowledge and accept that he had inescapable weaknesses and failings. In his humility—in compassionate self-acceptance—he gained towering strength.

And so it is with us. In our capacity for clear-eyed humility, we find strength. In our relationship to a providential God who embraces humanity and all creation in a spirit of loving acceptance, we find a foundation for our own self-acceptance. And a greater capacity to love and be loved.

The newest member of our clinical staff, Katie Geiser, is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker Associate. We are tremendously excited to welcome her as a skilled clinician and a valuable addition to our cadre of child- and family-focused therapists.“My heart for this work lies in helping children, individuals, and families navigate the ups and downs that come with our movement through life”, attests Katie. She works with families and individuals, including youth and children. “I appreciate the opportunity to walk along side those I work with, supporting the journey of making meaning of it all with the goal of fostering resilience and personal strengths.”
In her work with children, Katie’s primary mode is creative play. “Play, the work of childhood (but so important for all ages!), is a wonderful vehicle for expression, stress relief, connection, understanding, learning and growth; I have over ten years of experience working with and learning within the play of children.”
With adolescents and young adults, she shifts focus; here, the emphasis is on “supporting critical thinking, defining the self, facilitating discernment (career, relationships, schooling, etc.) and supporting the important work of differentiation and individuation unique to this time of life.”
Born here in Washington, Katie received her B.A. in Psychology from Gonzaga University and went east to Smith College for her M.S.W. Prior to joining the staff at Samaritan Center, she was Clinical Supervisor for Kindle Farm School in Newfane, VT. While completing the final work for full licensure in the State of Washington, Katie offers her services on a cash basis (to include sliding scale). She sees clients at the main office, on Ravenna Blvd.
For more information on Katie Geiser, see her profile on this site.

Once upon a time, when one of my sons was an exchange student in Austria, this happened:

Sixteen-year-old Chris believed that Rice Crispy treats were the best dessert in the world. You probably know what I’m talking about — marshmallows melted in butter, then stirred into the snap crackle and pop cereal?  Well, somewhere during that year abroad, he mentioned that they didn’t have marshmallows in Austria.  A geographic design flaw, certainly.  In response, I sent Chris a bag of marshmallows and a box of Rice Crispy cereal so that he could make the best dessert in the world for his host family.  I thought it was a brilliant idea.  I still do.

But here’s the thing: as the years passed and family stories were told and retold, this became the story:  “Other mothers sent actual cookies to their kids,” Chris said. “My mom sent me the ingredients.”

This wasn’t the first (or last) time I felt like a flawed mother. On reflection, however, I’m thinking that Chris was accurately describing my parenting philosophy.  Parents are responsible for coming up with the right ingredients. The outcome — in this case, the cookies – also depends on what the child does with those ingredients. Another brilliant idea, don’t you think?

I don’t mean to imply that parenting is simple or time-limited. It’s certainly not a matter of “Here you go, kid. I’m outta here.” For me, the intriguing thing about parenting is its complexity, its durability and the way it constantly changes shape. It’s about the relationship between two particular people over time.

I once had the image of a teeter totter on a school playground.  When a child is small, the weight is all on the parent’s end and those little child legs are dangling in the air.  As the child grows up, the teeter totter evens out and both sets of legs can touch the ground as needed.  Later on, as the parent ages, the weight shifts toward the adult child’s end and sometimes it’s the parent’s legs that are dangling in the air.

Thinking again about the ingredients idea, I’m imagining that both parent and child, at whatever age and life stage, continue to offer each other ingredients for their relationship. And here again, complexity arises. The ingredients that are offered may not feel to the receiver as if they belong in their imagined recipe. Sometimes one person stops offering or accepting altogether.  Life circumstances change.

Perhaps even modest success relies on our willingness and our ability to continue to show up for the relationship —  reserving judgment, allowing for mistakes, trying to understand one another. That will determine the outcome.