{"id":142,"date":"2018-02-28T04:06:34","date_gmt":"2018-02-28T04:06:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/?p=142"},"modified":"2018-05-17T13:35:51","modified_gmt":"2018-05-17T13:35:51","slug":"survival-kit-for-stepparents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/news-and-insights\/survival-kit-for-stepparents\/","title":{"rendered":"“Survival Kit for Stepparents”"},"content":{"rendered":"
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  1. Give up the belief that there\u2019s only one RIGHT way to do things. Be willing to consider new possibilities and other ways of looking at the world.<\/li>\n
  2. Try to stay in the present moment, rather than letting yourself slip back into the past or drift into the future. Focus on things you have some control over.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Accept an appropriate amount of responsibility for maintaining a comfortable and safe emotional \u201cclimate\u201d in your home, but don\u2019t get stuck in managing every detail.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. Recognize that everyone gets to feel the way they feel, but make and enforce rules that ensure that people act in ways that are fair and respectful.<\/span><\/li>\n
  5. Develop stepparent\/stepchild roles gradually and thoughtfully, with the original parent primarily in charge of his\/her children, while people are getting used to the changes.<\/li>\n
  6. \u00a0Accept that parents and their original children will always have a special bond, and that this isn\u2019t necessarily a threat to the newly developing family.<\/li>\n
  7. \u00a0Resist overburdening particular days or events (birthdays, Mother\u2019s Day or Father\u2019s Day, graduations, etc.). Instead, focus on creating good long-term feelings and memories.<\/li>\n
  8. \u00a0Arrange to have some time alone as a couple EVERY DAY– time to share information, plan and, most important, pay attention to your relationship.<\/li>\n
  9. \u00a0Insist on some individual time EACH DAY for taking care of yourself.\u00a0 Adults who are responsible for meeting the needs of their children and others on a daily basis can\u2019t run on empty.<\/li>\n
  10. \u00a0When things look as if they\u2019re getting out of hand, take a deep breath and try to remember which people in the family are the grown-ups and which ones are the kids. Then try hard to behave like a grown-up \u2013 and expect the other grown-ups to do\u00a0so as well.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Ten steps to help stepparents and children have a better relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[90,89],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-142","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-resources","category-skills-tools"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p9HFgk-2i","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/142","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=142"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/142\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":550,"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/142\/revisions\/550"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=142"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=142"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/samaritanps.org\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=142"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}